Supporting a Loved One with Depression or Anxiety: Tips for Family and Friends
Supporting a Loved One with Depression or Anxiety: Tips for Family and Friends
Written by Lily Thrope
Supporting someone close to you who struggles with mental health issues can at times be challenging and complicated. Many people worry that they don’t know how to go about it or that they will exacerbate the issue. These are normal concerns, but supporting someone–be it a friend, a partner, a child or a parent– on their mental health journey, may benefit the both of you. Your loved one will likely appreciate the support during a time that they may feel confused, isolated and alone.
Firstly, it’s important to recognize the signs of depression and anxiety in someone who is close to you. These signs manifest both physically and emotionally. You may notice your friend or family member taking on some of the following habits:
Compulsive actions or behaviors/OCD
Constantly seeking reassurance
Higher levels of irritability and outbursts, crying spells
Difficulty sleeping
Loss of interest in activities or avoiding events and people
Please note that these are not all of the symptoms of anxiety and depression and that symptoms vary according to individual experience.
Encourage Treatment. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness, less than half of the adults in the United States who experience anxiety and/or depression seek treatment methods. What this means is that many who struggle with mental health issues do not seek support or treatment options and some of those who experience mental health challenges may not even be aware that care is available. There are many circumstances as to why one might not choose to seek support, but feelings of shame and remorse often preclude people from expressing those feelings. While there has been some progress within public opinion, the subject of mental health care has been stigmatized for many generations. The most helpful thing you can do for your family member, loved one or friend, is to let them know that you support their decision to seek help and treatment if necessary, and to assure them they need not be ashamed. With your patience and support, your friend or family member may opt to pursue therapy or medication — it is key that you let them know you stand by their side.
Be a Good Listener. Oftentimes all anyone needs is to be heard during an emotional crisis. Be there for your loved one to listen and hear them. Don’t try to give too much advice or make judgments, but rather be a sounding board. Allow them to express themselves freely; encourage them and establish trust.
Check In. If there is physical distance between you and them, check in regularly and see how they are doing. A simple text or call can do the job. My personal tip - I love to send cards to my friends and family who live far away from me. It is such an effortless gesture that always cheers up the people in my life. When people struggling with depression or anxiety know they are not alone, it can make their journey toward wellness easier.
Take Care of Yourself. Make sure to take care of yourself. Your wellbeing is just as important as theirs, and at times, supporting a loved one with their mental health concerns can take a toll. Be sure to set boundaries and don’t put yourself in a position where you feel you are taking on too much responsibility. It’s like what they say on an airplane: secure your own mask first before assisting others. You can’t advocate for others if you don’t advocate for yourself. And you can’t give from an empty vessel, so make sure you are ‘filled up.’
You may also suggest that your friend or family member reach out to a trained and experienced mental health professional. Right now at Thrope Therapy we offer both in-person and virtual sessions. Please email us with any questions or inquiries at hello@thropetherapy.com.
